Often the term ‘organic’ is featured on food packs (biodegradable and recycled ones, hopefully) –
but when it comes relationships, can we go organic? The rise of social networks and dating sites
of late promote a dependency towards man-made portals to connect, relate and survive.
Sure, we have a variety of tech portals for keeping in touch with long lost friends and long
distance lovers, but look closely and you will find that the more networking apps you download
on your iPhones and Blackberries, the less need you will have for actual interaction. The director
of the MIT Initiative on Technology and Self, Professor Sherry Turkle observes, “We’re using
inanimate objects to convince ourselves that even when we’re alone, we feel together. And then
when we’re with each other, we put ourselves in situations where we
feel alone.” Which brings us to the case in point – Organic Love. Like its produce counterparts,
it’s a pure, back-to-basics approach in relationships that will push us towards a sustainable love
life with greater meaning.
Organic Love How-To
No cheat sheets. Instead, focus your commitment to making relationships heathier and longer till
death do you part.
All Natural: Using only the raw materials: honesty,
respect, love and trust.
Non-Toxic: Don’t let little issues accumulate and grow by side-stepping them, as this can slowly
affect the health of the relationship. Bring them to light and assess what went wrong (no
pointing fingers!) to come up with a solution together.
Composting: Sometimes, arguments need to rest in order to break itself down and decompose
naturally. Especially when it comes to emotional baggage, it’s better not to force the issue once
it’s all been said and done. Who knows, it might just result in a mineral enriched soil in which to
sow the seed of a growing love.
Cruelty-Free: Hold the hurtful words that are hurled just for spite. Explain your feelings to be as
clear, concise and as kindly as possible. Conservation: It may not be all flowers and rainbows on
this meadow of love, but keep in mind that you and your partner should be on the same team –
not playing a game of tug-of-war against each other. Admitting mistakes and respecting each
other’s opinion will help dissipate problems before they become palpable.
To read more about how to cook up a healthy love life, pick up our April 2011 edition at a
newsagent near you.